Hello Beautiful People of the World,
In a recent conversation, I saw for the first time that action can be used as a barometer for growth and change in my life.
When I look at a class, a book or an interaction which seems to present an opportunity for me to grow as a human being I have in the past wondered–is it worth it to continue? Is this actually something useful or am I merely engaging in proverbial “navel gazing” ?
Well, consider that points in life of real growth take one to a place of new action. A transformative conversation may have me re-evaluate how I’ve been approaching a situation in my life. If whatever I’m learning leads me to take new action, thus producing a new result, I am growing–if however, I sit back and say “oh that’s neat” or “what an interesting theory,” but take no action from it, I may not actually be growing.
The one place I see where this could get sticky for folks is in those areas where “action” doesn’t look like doing an outward thing so much as it looks like a shifted point of view. Though we aren’t always aware of it, a shifted viewpoint often DOES have us take different actions though it can be a subtler shift–for me it is often in my speaking or in my listening and I’m not always immediately aware of this change. If you feel like your internal state has shifted but you don’t see a radical change in your actions–ask yourself if people in your life are appearing differently or relating to you in a new way. If yes, look at how you are being with them–this will often uncover subtle changes in your actions.
On the flip side, if you’re saying “I’m totally radically transformed in how I view the world from experience x” and you don’t see any immediate shift in your world–whether in your actions or how others are relating to you–I would look at whether you are actually growing in your life or merely enjoying a new idea. Look at the actions your taking and if you are taking no new actions and having no shift in your standard way of being, the question I would ask is: how can I take this transformed view into my life such that my life and the lives of those around me are transformed?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this or if you have any experience in this area!
With Love and Gratitude,
I would rather be thought crazy and retain my soul,
Than normal and lose it.
There are many things in this world that appear and disappear in a moment.
The sacred relationship of me with me,
The Soul, Spirit, Divine me,
Is not one if them.
At the end it is only me with me
So I better like who I find.
No soul crunching choices,
They cost too much.
No cutting me down to fit in,
I don’t wish to live as one already dead.
Instead I choose to walk, me with me, soul and human, walking with God to nourish the Soul Life in all that I do in this ever changing world.
With Love and Gratitude,
The first teaching My Guru Sai Maa offered me (I am filled with Gratitude writing these words!) was about moving through emotion.
At that time in my life, I would get caught up in intense feelings of overwhelm during my daily life. Not knowing how to deal with this, I gathered my courage and asked Sai Maa about this at a small Q and A session shortly after I first met Maa.
She asked me if I was feeling overwhelmed in that moment. I said yes, a little bit.
She asked me to feel it 100% and, though I was scared at what would happen, I said ok and tried it. At first I only got to about 70% by my estimate. She said, no problem, just try again.
For some reason, even then I couldn’t get to 100% and when I told Maa (thinking I was doing something wrong), she said “Oh? What happened?”
I responded, “It disappeared.” (Still thinking I’d done it wrong)
To which she said “Ah” with that knowing smile of hers.
I realized then that the overwhelm was completely gone and I was filled with calm and joy and a huge smile spread across my face.
This has been an incredibly powerful teaching for me over the past few years. Maa recently said that so often we humans will go into an emotion only a little bit, resisting it, but if we would only go into it, feeling it 100% without mentally feeding the emotion, we would go through the tunnel to find the light at the other side.
Lately this practice has moved to a new place in which I find that moving into and breathing through moments of stress or anxiety brings me directly into the Love and immensity of my Soul, my Higher Self, and dissolves the internal conflict leaving only Love and deep connection to my Self.
If you want to try this, here is how I approach it:
1) Identify the emotion (naming it can be helpful for clarity, but feeling it is sufficient. Take it one emotion at a time to start)
2) Feel it in the body, notice where there is tension or resistance
3) Focus on the area where you feel the emotion and really let yourself feel it 100% while consciously bringing the breath in this area.
Note: This is not a mental exercise! I have had success with this only when I feel what is present rather than thinking about how it feels.
Can be the trail of love going forth from my heart that I follow inexorably
Into the arms of the unknown
Joyous to see what may be found
(In my mind’s eye, I always picture Buttercup from the Princess Bride leaping out of the window in her white dress at the end of the film)